Thursday, January 26, 2012

Norwegian Honeymoon?

Being an expatriate has its own shocks. While it may look glamorous residing in a foreign land for a length of time can cause severe hardship and many times one feels a sense of being buffeted in strong winds without an anchor to root you.
The incident of an Indian couple having their children being taken away from them by Norwegian Child Services Authorities is a great case in point. Anurup and Sagarika Bhattacharya lost custody of their three-year-old son and one-year-old daughter eight months ago after authorities branded their behavior inappropriate. While the authorities have remained tight lipped some of the reasons for this seemingly harsh decision are:
1. The children were fed by hand.
2. The children shared the parent’s bed.
3. The children were fed yogurt (curd) and rice.
4. The children were slapped on occasion.

None of the above would probably send a normal Indian into a tizzy and the issue has many Indian’s foaming at the mouth but Norwegian authorities view it differently. The parents have been told that they can only see their children twice a year, for an hour during each visit until the kids turn 18 when they will no longer be bound by the current restrictions under current Norwegian law. This prompted the Indian Government to intervene and the latest is that the kid’s uncle will take custody of the children and leave Norway with them. How that is a solution, is something that I fail to see.
Amidst this brouhaha one can sympathize with the Norwegians a tad. In a country with a declining population and despairing at poor birth rates, children are precious and might cause them to see fairly normal (as seen by Indian’s) parenting traits differently. However should Norway want to integrate itself into a flat and extended world and avoid bad press it would need to understand that people do things differently across nations and need to be accepted with their cultural traits?
Amidst this mess, it would be interesting to hear what support the Indian couple received from their employers, an American MNC in dealing with this trauma. Norway's Child Protective Service has come under much scrutiny in the past for excessive behavior in their handling of child cruelty. However that is how Norway is and expatriates and their masters need to sensitize folk setting up shop there.

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